It's a cliche, but it's true. Get a bunch of moms together in a room and they will inevitably talk about their children, even on the rare occasion they get to be without them. It's the one thing we all have in common, no matter where we're from or what we do. (I think there was only one poor soul at the party who didn't have kids, but she listened to us talk about breastfeeding and pacifiers and blow-outs like a saint.) It was funny hearing all the different opinions on things, but one thing we all agreed on was that my friend should NOT wake her baby up every two and a half hours at night to feed him, despite what the pediatrician said. As a first time mom, I did everything I was told by people who knew more on the subject of raising a human than me (i.e., everybody). Next time around, there are a few things I'd do differently.
#1 Buy a swing: How did I not have one of these with Jack? Every time we went to a friend's house who had one, I would marvel out how well their babies (and Jack) napped in the damn thing. Why didn't I buy myself one? The world may never know. I will not make that mistake again.
|Baby Rhys napping like a champ - IN HIS SWING!|
#3 Take help wherever I can get it: I was always reluctant to take friends up on babysitting offers. After all, I did want to remain friends with them. But next time, if a friend wants to make me lasagna or watch Jack for a couple hours while I do pretty much anything, I'll know not to turn them down. Friends, you have been warned.
#4 Join a mom's group ASAP: I waited until Jack was six months old to join a mom's group. I wish I'd done it sooner. I made a few great friends that way, and it got my out of the house far more often. At the same time, don't think you have to be friends with someone just because you both gave birth. It may be enough common ground for a baby shower; it's not always a basis for a friendship.
#5 Don't compare myself to everyone: This is a life lesson for me, not just a mom lesson. Every kid is different, every mom is different. Find what works for you and try not to worry so much about everyone else.
#6 Stop obsessing over the damn pacifier: The kid will probably give it up when he's ready. Even if you have to take it from him, you'll both survive. Either way, your children will inherit your overbite, so let it go.
#7 Travel as much as possible before the baby can walk: We actually did a good job of this (20 flights in one year), but I wish we'd done even more traveling when Jack was tiny. It was so much easier then. Sigh.
#8 Get an Ergo: Unless you're a man, the Bjorn sucks. If baby number 2 is anything like baby number 1, you'll just end up carrying him like a sack of potatoes half the time. It's not pretty. Spend the money.
#9 If I'm going to work from home, get a nanny: I think this one is pretty self explanatory, which is why it's kind of troubling that I didn't figure it out sooner. No one will be happy if you half-ass everything, most especially you.
#10 Trust my instincts: Jack is still alive and well. I am still alive and well. I must have done something right.
#11 BUY A SWING!
What about you? Anything you would do (or did do) differently with number two?